By giving birth to an infant, one does not automatically become a mother. Biological mother, sure, but being a mother (in the sense of nurturing and loving their children) doesn't just happen. This is very prominent in the novel, demonstrating that the help can be more motherly and loving to children than the women that birthed them. The women who hire the help in the novel don't seem to realize or care that another person is raising their child, furthering the evidence that they are not mothers, no matter how much they argue against it.
From reading "The Help" it may be deduced that motherhood is not simply defined by the fact that someone carried a child within them for nine months; that is only a small part of it. In the book, Aibeleen has cared for over seventeen children in her lifetime, yet she cares for each one of them as if they are her own, and extremely dear to her. To the children she cares for, "Aibee" is their mother because she possesses all characteristics a true mother would - she genuinely cares for the children, and she is constantly concerned about them. She regularly shows them that she loves them and encourages them - she repeats the words "You is kind, you is smart, you is important" to the children as they get older. This sentiment instills the thought that they are significant in their minds so they will not doubt themselves. Aibeleens actions are contrary to those who have actually had the babies she cared for - they are self obsessed and oblivious to their children's needs. The topics the author touches on are applicable in that they separate the mothers from those who simply give birth - it creates a steadfast difference between the two which enhances the character of the person who actually puts in the time and dedication to raise the child.
This book shows a lot of neglect towards children. When a white woman has a child, she has her help take care of it. The help, who are busy taking care of other peoples children, do not spend very much time with their own, although many of their children are much older now. It shows that a mother isn't the person who gave birth to the child, but the one who raises it.
Reading the Novel " The Help" you can see that Motherhood is not defined by simply having a child and being the birth mother. The fact the "Mother" does not pay any attention or care for the child while another woman raises, teaches, cares, and loves the child.Aibeleen was more of a mother to Mrs Leefolts child then she every was or would be. Mae Mobley longed for attention from her mother yet got nothing. She saw Aibeleen as more of a mother then Ms Leefolt.
Basically just because you birth the kid doesn't make you a mother. getting your act together and Caring for your child's well being makes you a mother. The white ladies in this novel where terrible mothers and had no right to call themselves mothers.
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